I think one of our best training opportunities to grow-up and be an integrated, healed, whole adult is through getting help for the various difficulties that arise when we are in a committed relationship. But often, alone with our partner, we can just get in a rut of reacting and not learning. That is painful and frustrating. In relationship counseling, the difficult feelings and behaviors arise right in the room and can be worked with as they happen - with help!. Then it is easier to learn different tools and understand the dynamics better - and make the changes you have always wanted in your relationship.